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Frustration and sadness

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Kiran
, April 30th, 2010 at 08:24 AM (692 Views)
It is with much sadness and frustration I am here today. I have spent many years working in my local community with a very special group of people. We have formed a community forum - a group made up of verious residents/sports/agencies living and working in the area. We have worked very hard for four years to build up relationships with various agencies and local government.
We were all singing from the same hymn sheet in that we wanted a safer, better environment for us all to live in, addressing the needs of the community as they inform us. Acting as advocates for those unable or unwilling to do it themselves. Yes I am very proud of what our group has achieved.
We had to invite one or two people onto it (at the request of the local government group we work with) and these have done absolutely nothing to contribute.
They haven't attended the last two meetings and when they do, they constantly pick holes and criticise whatever we are doing. They speak as though they are apart from the group and yet they aren't.

*sigh.....I am sorry...I just needed to get this off my chest and if you don't want to read anymore, thats ok...*sigh...I just needed to say what I need to say before it festers inside and really upsets me

Last night one of the committee came to me after the meeting to tell me this one in particular is going around to all the agencies we have worked with and complaining/undermining all the work we have done. Some of the agencies know us personally and know where we are coming from...others are new to working with us and may also fund us...this just so sucks!!!

I have tears in my eyes as I write this I feel that saddened about it as this is very dear to my heart.

I am trying to see what lessons are here...I really am but I know it is affecting the others as I sense it from them, and I am carrying that too as a empath, so I am aware all I am feeling is not just my own.

When the things we do with the children, the lone parents, the unemployed and those feeling isolated in our area is under threat of being affected, well, it just breaks my heart that one person can try and undo all this.
I don't know what thier issues are as they don't have the balls to discuss them like an adult so I am not even going to go there!!
All I care about is the families we try to assist and that just makes me sad.

Ok rant over.....if you lasted this long, thanks for listening. I'll get over it but that has bugged me all night to the point I didn't get much sleep.
Ok zipping it now! Really cannot say anymore about it.

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  1. Narnia's Avatar
    Oh Lorri ... I can feel your frustartion!! Be steadfast, stay true to your intentions and the merit of your combined efforts will shine!!

    I wish there was more I could say or do to help, but for now please accept my cyber big huge HUG!!
  2. Kiran's Avatar
    All I can say right now is a great big thank you
    Love you muchly
  3. BlueStar's Avatar
    Big Hugs from me too Lorri. People create so much hell for themselves and others. It's difficult being around such people and having to deal with their toxic behaviour. Some people are creators, some are healers, some sadly are destroyers. It's the deadness and disconnectedness within their psyches that causes them to behave like this. Who knows why? Jealousy? Power?

    All I can say is stay true to yourself, and keep doing what you know in your heart to be true. Sometimes I think we have to follow our truth and be willing to stand firm in it when obstacles (and certain people) come along. Maybe that's the lesson? I've learned the importance of developing the quality of "hootlessness" - being in my truth and being hootless as to whatever anyone else thinks and does. Because most of them know nothing
  4. Kiran's Avatar
    You know Rory...you may be right. I didn't mean to come across as such a whinger..lol
    Its just this is dear to my heart and I guess it sickens me when people try to destroy something so positive and good. You'd think I'd be used to it and toughened up by this stage in my life!!! lollol
  5. BlueStar's Avatar
    You didn't come across as a whinger at all, Lorri! I felt your anguish and knew that it came from the love in your heart and that you have invested in this. I hope it resolves soon for you. "This too will pass"
  6. Kiran's Avatar
    Thank you dearest friends...you have helped ease my heart and I will forever be in your debt. Much love to you both
  7. Rana's Avatar
    sorry i havent been here my friend ..ive been in a strange daze for what seems like eternity of late . i know by now you will have composed your strength and remembered all who have fought for causes before you and felt exactly the way you are now ..it is amazing how far people have come with certain causes because of one person like you lorri.. women are still unequally paid in society a known fact still largely "excused" with political bull**** ..there is always the crap artist running around sabotaging progress in every commity .. dont let them be beat because you will be of assisteance to the right one who really needs your help and commity.maybe setting up a handbook that covers these types of breaches ,,confidentiality and loyalty included to weed out any trouble makers ..i wish you my love and strength ..be not sad for you have purpose and much love xxx
  8. Kiran's Avatar
    hehehehe...we have the handbook in place Rana...just finished it!! That made me smile
    I know....it has been a very 'vunerable' week for me this past week or so and it just got to me more than it should. I just hate all that sneaking around and crap....really pisses me off!!!
  9. MystEerieUsOne's Avatar
    Maybe a couple things you could do would be:

    Keep "minutes" of your meetings (transcript type) and vote to share them with those you depend on for assistance or support. Just knowing where their criticisms may go and that they'll be reasoned through by those they hope to impress could hush them up or change their attitude.

    Secondly, at your meetings, establish balance by passing out colored index cards to each person in attendance, such as 4 each. Each time they want to say something, they have to toss one of their cards into the middle of the table. Once their cards are used up, they can no longer contribute...leaving those still left with cards to have to speak up. Works wonders for maintaining balance throughout!