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  1. Kiran's Avatar
    I truly want to thank you all for your comments here. As a family there will be times we get a little irritated and annoyed or hurt and upset by comments....it happens in all families from time to time. But as a family, we should always be able to express openly our views but it should always be done with love and respect as mentioned above.
    We all also get caught up in the day to day rubbish of life and this too can impact on our communication skills.
    I am truly humbled by your honesty and this is why I call you all family and love you very much....I sit here with tears in my eyes and huge smiles in my heart.
  2. Mr B's Avatar
    Lorri,

    Thanks for this blogpost. This, together with the comments from our beloved friends here, made me realize that i need to open my eyes a bit further and look at everything from another perspective. I've become too "closed" over the years and need to open up again, to see it different and not only my way which i do more often lately so i've noticed.

    I will need to work on that to become more open again towards people and also open for any kind of communication. I too learned something from the past days and will keep an eye on myself not to open my mouth too soon to let my thoughts out just like that.

    I'm too harsh sometimes in my reactions and you know what.... I found out that this isn't me. That's what need to change, the way i think, react and communicate sometimes.
  3. Rana's Avatar
    i can relate here to what jay is saying about electronic communication i am also a very verbal ,sensory and body language interactive (phew) person . a few years back a close friend and i had a major blow out over some text messages on the mobile phone. sure a few (lol) and (smile harrh harrh's ) chucked in. but the real message got majorly misconstrued. so much so that we dont speak even today. ? for this reason i try to be more concious of how i may come accross and yes this my friends is why many of my posts are long and drawn out some with smiley faces and what ill call bracketed "expressions" and i always post " for me ". so people may understand it is MY opinion. because i learnt the hard way. but life is that way and we are all learning all the time. xx
  4. Kiran's Avatar
    Well Jay...we all have our lessons to learn and I think reminders like this are never any harm. I know I have had my share of them to learn and its being willing to change if we need to and take them in, this is the key Sending you much love and best intentions always.
  5. Jester Black's Avatar
    You know when I first showed up at the EMB way back in 03, I did so with the intent of studying how internet communities operate and how they differ from physical world communities, particularly in the way they communicate.

    In doing so, I learned something crucial about myself and communication in general. I do not communicate entirely with words, but also with my visual senses and body language. I grew up in an environment where that was vital if you expected to survive. Intent had to be read at the micro level and adjusted for in any communication. As a professional, Im involved in a lot of negotiations and the same skill set applies there. I read people...not words.

    This is generally not possible on the net, which creates a bit of an issue for someone like me, putting my subconscious mind on the defensive. Its something that Ive been working on. But given my natural inclinations, its not all that easy.

    "If you do try to share your ideas/opinions about something and this is done without consideration for your audience, then this can be tantamount to bullying or coercion. You are trying to insist your ideas/beliefs are right and the only ones that matter."

    Couldnt agree with you more and as you know, Ive harped on this in the past as things have been said here and at the EMB that are detrimental to my personal values and associations, knowing that I would read it and most likely react.

    However, i know that we are all, to some extent, guilty of this. I know I am.
  6. Narnia's Avatar
    Thank you Lorri for this wonderful entry!! It speaks volumes, indeed!!
  7. Kiran's Avatar
    Thanks for your response Rana. Yes I have to agree with much of what you have said honey. People feeling they are not being heard needing to make more noise. The other side of that coin is also our little friend EGO. People feeling that they are always right and that their opinion is the only one that counts.....
  8. Rana's Avatar
    hi lorri. yes communication is a key ingredient in the coming together of our species.and unconditional communication .. being the sitter and the listener.being in tune with the person they are really listening and connecting to. many people like to argue and be in control and seem to always focus on being right and being heard close their ears to the person they are supposed to be listening to.causing a rift ( i strongly feel for these people because i know many or these personalities and they still communicate like when they were a child and no one validated them, no one listened to them sotheir voices got louder and their material more intense and in their hearts grew anger the more they werent validated , when only they need to become quiet and listen to their audience engage in it and get a feel for what their friends and collegues are saying directly or indirectly, my ex brother in law was exactly this way and i still love him dearly he has the heart and soul of a wonderful being, except he grew up with 4 older sisters (he was born when his mum was 50) his sisters grew up first in germany then in Argentina during their terrible history smart brilliant women sharp in politics.he got louder and more angrier he hadnt experienced their lives, them.he was the cute little brother wanting always to be validated.. i always admire the person who admits that they are wrong that they knew they went out of control and on a rant .this world is reflective of that everywhere you look .in our schools at our work places. people are just hung up on themselves and what they themself believe and dont realise how their rants can really hurt and disrupt so much , when all people are trying to do is come together and find peace. instead they play games. it is a mirror of where our world is AT this time in our learning.however hope is never lost. we can heal. we havent lost touch.or the ability to heal. communication is the key. listening. being in tune.
  9. Kiran's Avatar
    I am glad you liked it Sean
  10. 's Avatar
    The darkest time is just before dawn....therefore Light will return...what will you see in that Light?
    Hope.... as always

    A wonderful post Lorri
  11. Kiran's Avatar
    Thank you Sean....well I can only deal with one thing at a time and like the UK the students, unions and everyone is marching here. My thought though is how effective marching becomes after a while. What annoys me more than anything is that when the IMF and EU were putting out bailout loan in place, they did nothing to look at the governing system in place that caused all this in the first place! Its the same Old Boys Network syndrome you get everywhere I am afraid!
  12. 's Avatar
    It maddens me that the banks and the Goverments we elect through mismanagement and greed are f...ing everything up and little guy who is stuggling to make ends meet has to pick up the cost whilst some of them are still in power. I watched the stories about Irelands debt crisis and it saddnens me to think so many people including you will be affected by it.

    Seems to be the same all over, countries and people up to the eyes in debt, Even the students are marching again in the UK after being asleep for the last 20 years, It is just the begining, People will only take so much then they will start kicking back...

    My thoughts are with you I hope the wonderful work you do in the community continues, You deserve some peace, economic stability and happiness in your life. I hope it comes to you soon.
  13. Kiran's Avatar
    The s**t has hit the fan big time! Basically Ireland is no longer open for business!!! lol
    Trying to keep a brave face on things but its not now but in the next couple of years things are going to get hard for everyone. Basically the government has so mismanaged everything that each person will have to pay at least €4,000 per year to pay back the debt we are going to incur in borrowing money from Europe and IMF in order to keep Ireland open and running.....I can't say as per normal cos it hasn't run normally for quite a while now! Long and very boring story but lets just say...governments, looking after thier own interestes, backhanders and crap like that!!
  14. Rana's Avatar
    Lorri ? whats happeing in Ireland at the moment ? we are hearing all sorts of stories ..
  15. Kiran's Avatar
    Thanks Rory for your words but in truth my dearest, we are ALL shining lights. It is by keeping the flame alight and truth being spoken that we continue on the paths before us. Be not afraid for as you know my dearest, we are all on that path which is set before us, which we ourselves chose and while we remain true to that journey, we will all indeed prevail.
    Love you dearly
  16. BlueStar's Avatar
    The situation is the same in the UK. Job losses left right and centre, while the new government is systematically dismantling the welfare state. I have also have flashes of great uncertainty about what the future holds, but I keep remembering the truth that nothing is of absolute importance. There is a deeper order, and I just keep surrendering to that...and knowing that at our core we are more powerful than we often dare imagine. We are the dreamer and the dream. I try to hold my centre, as I know you do and everyone reading this.

    Thank you for sharing this Lorri, you are a true inspiration and shining light. I know that everything will work out for you. You are on purpose
  17. Kiran's Avatar
    Thanks dearest....your words are very kind and appreciated Its my job to spread the love around as much as possible lol
    Love you Rana xx
    Updated November 18th, 2010 at 03:11 PM by Kiran
  18. Rana's Avatar
    you are a beautiful soul with a powerful beating heart ..spread the love lorri xxx
  19. Kiran's Avatar
    Thank you Naveen...much appreciated dearest
  20. Stargazer's Avatar
    that's a nice one
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